Is there a way to update the server data because a user who has reached his
limit deleted a bunch of emails and his local data is well under the limit,
but the server data continues to show a number above the limit, so he is
receiving warning emails.  His email is still functioning, but he has been
receiving these emails for the past 3 days after the deletions.

So can the server data be updated manually?

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